Saturday, February 5, 2011

Top 10: Ways To Make Women Chase You

 No.10 Make a magnetic first impression

The fact is, most guys destroy any chance of having women pursue them by screwing things up from the start. The moment most men meet a woman, they hem and haw, acting nervous and insecure, which is a total attraction killer. On the other hand, once a man masters his Inner Game to the point where he can approach any woman any time and come across as totally confident and secure right off the bat, then he becomes instantly magnetic to women. Now he can sit back and watch them come to him.

No.9 Be a challenge

Listen, any guy that women perceive as desperate, needy and eager to please already has one foot in the Wuss grave. Women never feel attraction for a Wuss, let alone chase him. But come across as powerful -- as a guy who has a lot going on in his life and couldn’t care less if he gets her -- and you’re on the fast track to drawing women to you instead of having to do all the work. In other words, be a challenge.

No.8 Ask the right questions

Once a woman thinks of you in a particular way, she's likely to keep thinking of you in that way. So start out acting like a Wuss, and guess what -- she assumes you will always act like one, and you're done. That’s why it’s critical to avoid the impulse to ask the standard Wussy questions right up front, like “So, what kind of guys do you like?” or “So, am I your type?” Worst of all is, “Do you have a boyfriend?” Please. Don’t do it.

No.7 Don't linger

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Well, guess what -- nothing could be truer for women. If you hang around all the time or don’t wait long enough to call a woman back, there's no anticipation. When there’s no anticipation, there’s no motivation -- no driving force -- to make a woman come after you. Plus, lingering says all the wrong things to a woman who’s starting to feel it for you. It makes you look desperate. But make yourself scarce, and you’ll leave her wanting more -- and trying to get it.

No.6 Pay attention the right way

Newsflash: Women love it when guys pay attention to them. But it’s the anticipation of receiving attention that drives them crazy. So stop buying her flashy gifts and dropping obvious compliments. Instead, tell her you were thinking of her today or tell her you had a dream about her last night. In other words, let her know she’s in your thoughts when she's not around. She’ll become addicted to hearing more.

No.5 Get inside her head

To make woman chase you you need to make women think about you instead of the other way around. One way to make that happen easily is this: Decline or ignore any first advances or invitations you receive from a woman. Even better, make yourself look busy and in demand. Tell her, “Oh, you want to hang out on Friday? Geez, I don't know. I have this other thing going on, and I don’t know if she’ll let me out of it.”

Do this right, and she won’t be able to stop thinking about you.

No.4 Test her

This step is crucial. To get women to chase you, you have to turn the tables. That means making women qualify themselves to you. In other words, take power in the situation by framing yourself as the selector. It can be as simple as asking, “What makes you more interesting than other girls I’ve dated?” Or, “What are three things a guy would like about you, and please don't say 'looks.'” Do this in a sarcastic, joking way, and women will be drawn into the conversation, guaranteed.

No.3 Master Cocky & Funny

This one’s basic. I tell men all the time that humor is the fastest path to success with women, and it holds true for scientific reasons. Fact is, making a woman laugh when you meet her is the most powerful way to make her keep thinking about you and want to spend more time with you. So make a woman laugh, and no matter how unattainable she seems, she’ll be biologically drawn to you because of the positive feelings you create in her -- feelings she just can't ignore.

No.2 Hold on to your card

I love this tip because it’s the simplest way to get women to do all the work. Basically, when you first meet a woman, don’t be an open book. You can do this by simply not introducing yourself until she asks your name or by using the power of “maybe.” Tell her, “Listen, I have to get back to my friends, but maybe I'll see you later.”

Bottom line: Suspense and mystery are foolproof ways of creating attraction. Making those feelings of attraction so strong that she can’t resist them is the best way to get her to chase you.

No.1 Stop doing the chasing

Duh, right? If you’re constantly hitting on everything that moves -- throwing out stale pickup lines and nervous chatter -- then you’ll never master the skills needed to truly get women to chase you. And, by the way, know why they call it “hitting” on a woman? Because most of the time it’s just plain painful for her. So the first step is to stop doing it, period. Only then can you stop following women around like a love-sick puppy -- like every other guy is doing -- and start building the mystery and tension that attracts them.

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